Studio Diary November 15th, 2008

First I love you and I am honored you are with me again this week for this diary. Not sure how exactly this one will develop as I'm writing on a real controversial subject but I guess I'll just again try to pour my heart to you and believe you know I am not judging anyone and that my desire is that every single person would be walking in freedom.

It's Alex that brought to my attention a certain ad on Myspace: "Make Yourself Amazing: Breast Enlargement"... I didn't know what to think... then I saw some of their publicity quotes: "It's the best thing I ever did!"..."My friends love the new me"..."I would recommend it to anyone"...I felt angry. I am angry because I know who's going to look at this advertisement and be impacted by it... It's not stupid easy weak girls or ugly women who are going to whine and start dreaming about wining the lottery to pay this surgery, but great girls and women that all of a sudden realize that they don't supposedly have what it takes to be pretty, sexy, wanted, desired, respected...loved...It's also great boys and men that are building their vision of the woman... Damn! YFE fights everyday to get people to understand and realize their worth , that they deserve respect, that they have within themselves great things to offer, that they don't have to be something else to be loved, that they can change their own world, that they can impact others... and then you have a cosmetic company telling you: "Having the surgery really made my university life a great experience. My confidence grew and I had the courage to get involved in a lot more activities which helped me make some great friends!"... Can I explode???? They are playing on self-confidence and self-esteem to sell... So if you want success in your studies, in your relationships you need new boobs? Let's bring in some reality check: Would you say that it's not a big deal to have a surgery as long as you felt better after and it helps you get what you want? Then you find it normal that in China women and some men are paying thousands of dollars to have a brutal surgical procedure performed that lengthens their legs so they can fulfill height requirements often used to narrow down the number of job applicants? So who decides what is beauty, who decides that you don't have what it takes, who decides you are designed to be sad and unhappy all your life??? Damn! I won't let anyone suggest anything like that to you!

These companies don't care about your feelings, your psychological health, your relationships, your well-being...NOTHING! They only care about their own "Banking Enlargement"... Again I don't judge those who had the surgery and I really hope you are doing great, that you are happy...What I can't stand is that our society allows money makers to set beauty unrealistic standards and to play with our feelings and our self-esteem... Is my worth directly linked with my cup size? Am I going to be loved more if I show them off? Is my only asset being sexy? I am sad...I am so sad to realize some women believe these lies... mostly teenagers... Listen to me now! You girls have so many treasures to develop: your personality, your character, your talents, your dreams, your relationships... Would a small breast or any physical aspect you don't like keep you from doing that? NO! Stop putting all your efforts to fit with the image displayed in magazines (or just being depressed because you feel you'll never get there) and put these efforts to build yourself, to achieve things that are important to you, to invest in relationships that bring you to the next level... Your body is a part of you and you should take care of it, have healthy habits and get to a point where you can be proud of yourself...but let me tell you that when you decide that your worth resides in more than your boobs, your butt or in how guys look at you... you then can be yourself, you then can stop fearing and go further. YOU ARE WORTH WAY more than that!!! As a woman you have such a worth, you have a great sensitivity that you can use to care about others, you have a protective sense that you can use to shelter others and help others be better persons, you have a creativity that can be applied in so many fields, you have a strength that can make you move mountains and support others as well... Don't you think these things deserve more your attention than bigger boobs?

Now gentlemen... that concerns you just as much! If you want to live in a fantasy and see women around collapse in depression running after an unreal image you can just go with the flow...But if you want women to flourish around you, if you want to make your girl friend, companion, wife or daughter understand they are worth it you need to go counter currant! Guys, offer your respect to women around you, see them as they are: life partners that can bring you ideas, support, encouragement, strength, love... If women are more self-confident and if they are becoming what they are meant to be, then you guy's life will be enhanced because there is nothing better than loving, happy smiling, laughing, proactive women in your surrounding.

Again we do need each others in order to grow and become fully ourselves. I am here to remind you your worth...remind you that we love you the way you are and we just want you to be free, to be the main actor of your life and stand strong against society's lies. Together we can stand and build each others self-confidence and esteem. I love you... you are precious!